If I were to ask who the most important person is in your life, you would probably tell me about a treasured family member, or your best friend.
While it’s always wonderful to think about our loved ones, did you know that in reality, the most important relationship you can have in life is the one you have with yourself?
Think about the vast amount of time you spend in your own company. You wake up with yourself, you spend the day with yourself, and you go to bed with yourself. Whether or not you speak out loud, you will have more chats with yourself than with anybody else. So it goes to follow that the most important opinion in your life is your own.
This is fine, as long as you like yourself. If you don’t, you can probably imagine that the results can be very destructive. Your mind has no choice but to believe what you tell it. So if you think you’ve done a bad job, or that you are not good enough, that’s what you will ultimately believe – regardless of how much praise you might receive from others! The positive opinions of your boss, your friends or your partner, no matter how important they are to you, will not override your negative one. The solution, therefore, is for you to tell your mind positive things like any best friend would! It makes sense to try to avoid thoughts that weaken us when we consider that our thoughts are the source of everything that goes on in our lives. Believe that life is worth living, and your thoughts will help make that belief an everyday reality.
Alternatively, acting as your own worst critic is guaranteed to make you feel unhappy. As young children, we learn from our reality just as a sponge soaks up water. The things we see, hear and experience all combine to make us who we are, when in fact we haven’t been on the planet for very long at all. We hold on to the opinions and beliefs we form about our capability and our value, and we accept them as our truth.
You can update your programming by becoming more aware of your negative beliefs, and then making an active choice to stop them – something that Rapid Transformational Therapy easily enables you to do.
You may believe that becoming your own best friend, and praising yourself every day, sounds a little egotistical! However, valuing and respecting yourself is not egotistical. Reminding yourself of your unique talents, telling yourself that you are lovable, valuable and that you can achieve your goals, is only truly egotistical if you believe you and your talents are better than anyone else’s. This is not the intention of self-praise.